Can You Marry A Divorcee?

In certain parts of the world, it's normal for a man/woman to be married like three or four times. In other parts like Nigeria, the idea of being with a divorcee is still a controversial topic.

From a research carried out, only 10 percent of people can marry a divorcee. Why is this so?

Unlike the western world where people end their marriages for flimsy reasons, it's hard for Africans to do such. This might boil down to our cultural and religious believes. When you meet a divorcee, the reasons behind the break up are always really strong and probably after much long suffering. 

Some of the reasons why people say they can't marry a divorcee is that the person once had a significant other that they once really loved or still love deep down in their hearts. This can lead to insecurities in the new marriage. Thoughts that the reason why the person divorced might actually pop up, is another issue that might bring up insecurities in a marriage.  

Some other people frown at it, saying it's a sin. According to their religious beliefs, marriage is ordained by God and no man should put it asunder. Some people believe that gender plays a major role in the issue of marrying a divorcee or not. It's more acceptable for a woman to marry a divorced man than a man to marry a divorced woman. Some cultural norms believe that for a man to leave a woman, there is something wrong with her. Divorced women in these cultures are looked down upon and referred to as 'used and tainted'. They blame the woman for not making her marriage work.

Should this be the case. What of people who have to leave because the marriage was damaging to them- physical or verbal abuse, infidelity e.t.c. Are divorced people not allowed to have a second chance in love? There is a saying that being stuck in a bad marriage is as good as having hell  on earth...

Are there permissible reasons why an individual can end a marriage?

What's you take, can you marry a divorcee?

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Love Is In The Air For Uche Jumbo

Although she is not an expert when it comes to love, she feels she can share some theories. And why won't she, when she has such a loving husband? 

She feels that understanding,communication and above all perseverance are what makes love true because love alone is not enough. She goes ahead to say that Love is true when your partner is there for you always, even when the sky is blue. 

Well you have heard it people, the lover herself has spoken.

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Relationships: Dealing with insecurities.

A woman came up to me some days ago to complain about her relationship. According to her, she and her boyfriend are deeply in love with each other. What bothers her is the fact that her boyfriend has other girls making advances at him and he finds himself wishing he could follow up on them. Their relationship is a long distance one and she is pretty sure that one day, he would fall.

What do you think about this? Should the guy be having thoughts like this in the first place?

The fact that he told  her about this issue should count for something. It means he cares enough about her, and her opinion. If he didn't, he won't have said anything to her. He might have gone ahead with the offers and act like there was nothing wrong.

It's normal for guys to admire other women just the way some women admire other guys though this is more common among men. A woman should always bear this in mind.

Women who face issues like this should try and encourage their spouses, be more supportive. The tendency for a man to look else where would reduce if he knows he has something good at home. As a woman, you should try your best to keep your man's attention. What does he see in these other women that makes him want them? Ask him what he finds attractive in a woman. If what he says is reasonable, then by all means strive to give him that. Relationships lose their initial spark with time so it's your duty to bring it back by doing things you both love. Have long intimate calls, send pictures e.t.c. Remind him of what he has at home!

On the other hand, if you think that your man is getting out of hand then you better sit him down and trash it out. No matter how far you are from each other, there is no excuse for infidelity. If he is the type that chases after anything in skirt then you know what must be done... Your happiness in the relationship matters. If you can't trust your spouse, then why are you with him in the first place.

What do you think readers? Should she stay or should she go?

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Advice For Young Women; "Find A Husband On Campus Before You Graduate"

When Is The Best Time For A Woman To Find A Man, do you think you have the answer to this question?

Somewhere across the globe, an Ivy League alum wrote a letter titled 'advice for the young women of Princeton'. The alum said that in other for a woman to find happiness, she has to be able to find a man while she is in school.

She believes that time and nature favor men more than women. Women have what is called their 'biological clock' in regards to child birth and the longer she waits, the more it ticks off. To make matters worse, women tend to age faster than men . On the other hand, the reproductive system of a man stays the same way even at 50 years of age.

According to the write-up, If a woman finds a man while she is in school, this would save her time in the future because instead of searching about for Mr right, she can concentrate on building a home and herself after school. Men have a broader time frame to build a home and if they decide to start at 30 or 40 years, it won't make much of a difference.

In my opinion, the write-up is sensible but  one sided. Finding love in college also means you must be prepared to date the man till thy kingdom come because most men do not want to settle down till they are stable. In most cases this is an average of  7 years after graduation. Just looking at my friends who are in that situation and I must say they are living proofs. Except a woman decides to date a guy that is much older.

I may be wrong though, do you think her theory is right? Is this truly the best thing for women of the 21st century?

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Should A Woman Be The First To Make A Move?

This question seems to have no definite answer. A twitter handle called 'questionnaire' threw out this question "Ladies, can you ask a guy out?" a lady answered yes and it brought a lot of comments. Some people were like good that we are in the 21st century while others were like NO! that she would appear too cheap.

But really, would she?

A female friend of mine met a guy late last year and they clicked. They spoke regularly and i thought things would move to the next level. They kept chanting each other's name to me and it was like 'love made in Tokyo'. After about a month, the lady started complaining that she didn't understand the guy that he doesn't seem interested. This baffled me because right from the get go, this guy was crazy about her.

To cut the long story short, the guy said he was confused because the girl was acting like she did not like him. She complained whenever he was nice to her or complimented her and he wasn't sure what to do again. The girl on the other hand said she can't let him know that she likes him. She acts nonchalantly towards him to hide her true feelings yet she expects the poor boy to keep trying. She would rather cry in her room over what hasn't happened than tell him how she feels.

Dear readers, is this the way things should be? Must the guy nearly kill himself before you let him know how you feel? Asking someone out can be nerve wracking, not to talk of the humiliation that comes if she says no. In this time and age where women are playing leading roles everywhere, why can't they also take the bold step and make the first move.

Or guys, do you like the chase? Does it make you feel more of a man when you try hard to get her and eventually do? Does it make her any less of a decent woman if she lets you know how she feels about you? Would her honesty be taken for granted or misused by the so called 'players'?

I would like to know your opinion on this, because there are a lot of people suffering from self inflicted heart aches just because of this...

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Is Love Truly Better The Second Time

You've known this guy/girl for a while now. You dated, and due to one reason or the other or even tons of reasons (LOL), you broke up. A while after, you both have moved on and either got in touch again or din't lose it at all. One way or another things start to feel mushy again, old feelings come back and you are wondering if you should give it a try again.

A lot of people say love is better the second or third or fifth time after. This is very true in some cases because for starters, time has passed and you have both learn't a lot, you seem much wiser to handle settle things now.

 A lady told me her story of how she had serious commitment issues when the guy had to travel. She said after a while she felt like she was back to being single and their relationship became boring. After a while, she ended it. Today, they are back together and he is in an even further place but she feels she can handle it now. So many of us are like this lady, but the question is; are you truly ready to do it all over again?

Here are some ideas that might help you. Before you jump into that relationship again, what were the reasons that made you leave in the first place? Are they still there and standing strong or is it something you can learn to live with now without jeopardizing your happiness. A relationship involves two people who are willing to make the other person happy because they love them that much. Do you feel you are better equipped now to deal with what ever went wrong in the past? If yes, then i think you are on the right part.

But if no, maybe you need to sit down and seriously analyze your situation. If you really love this person that much, can you adapt? If still no, can it be changed? Would the person be willing to make adjustments so you both can be happy? Would such adjustments make the other person unhappy? These are some questions you have to sincerely ask yourself and your soon-to-be partner. A relationship takes more than love to stand and its pretty easy for love to turn to hate as they are both strong emotions. Running from the problem win't do you any good so you might as well dismiss such thoughts. In the long run, it would eventually catch up with you.

It's time for you to get real with each other. At the same time, what you are feeling might just be your mind bringing up something of old that's familiar. Make sure you address what went wrong the last time and trash it out then  come up with new ways to make this time feel different from the other. Make it more exciting and worth while for each other. The person being your 'ex' might seem like a disadvantage to most people but you can look at it from the point that you already know yourselves so you are better equipped to make it work this time.

Love is patient, love is kind, love doesn't envy, it doesn't boast; it's not proud. It doesn't dishonor others, it is not self seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs, it always protects, always trusts, always hopes =, always preserves and most of all, it delights in the truth.

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Michelle Obama Speaks On Relationships And More

In an article that featured the wife of the current president of America, Michelle Obama; they had her speaking on dear issues to her like her husband, daughters and the general female population at large.

When asked if she knew Obama would be president when she met him, she responded “Absolutely not. I’m just kidding *laughs* I knew he was a special person, and it had nothing to do with his education or his potentials. And I say this to young women; don’t check off- there are a lot of women who have the boxes e.g. did he go to the right school? What is his income like? It was none of that. It was how he felt about his mother, the love he felt for his mother; his relationship with woman, his work ethic… he wasn't impressed with himself (in a pompous way) and he was funny. We joked a lot and he loved his little sister… he was a community organizer, I really respected that.

It was those kinds of values that made me think you don’t meet people like that often, and when you couple that with talent… he is cute you know. I always thought he would be useful, but I had no idea he would become president until the night we were standing on the stage and he actually won. I was like ‘gosh, look you won.’”

She related what she and Obama tell their daughters to help them achieve their goals “Read, write, read. Read. If the president was here, he would tell you that one of his greatest strengths is reading. That’s one of the reasons why he is a good communicator…so we are trying to get our girls, no matter what, to just be- to love reading and to challenge themselves with what they read. and not just the gossip books, but to push themselves beyond and do things that may be they wouldn't do.

So i encourage you all to read, read, read. Just keep reading. Writing is another skill, it requires a lot of practice; but the more you write, the better you get..."

Her advice for women on relationship with spouses and each other: " do not bring people in your life who weigh you down. And trust your instincts... good relationships feel good, they feel right, they don't hurt. They are not painful. It doesn't just apply to your spouses, but to the people you surround yourselves with. Do you respect them, do they respect you? And we women in particular-and this is such an important message. Starting today, you all have to be supportive of each other, you can't be jealous and push and trip you know? It's hard enough."

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PHOTOS: What Would You Do For Love? Man Tattoos His Name Across Girlfriend's Face Hours After They First Met

 

Its an enormous wonder what the mystery of love can do- how just an online relationship brought Lesya and Rouslan into what seems to be the truest show of commitment.

Tattooist Rouslan Toumaniantz was allowed by his girlfriend Lesya to tattoo a variant of his name 'RUSLAN' in 5-inch-high letters across her face only hours after their first meet. Leysa who said the tattoo is "an eternal symbol of our love and devotion. I'd like him to tattoo every inch of my body." agreed to marriage plans with Rouslan soon after they met in Moscow, Russia.

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Omawumi And Her Mother Covers Mother's Day Edition Of Genevieve Magazine

Omawumi Megbele and her mum Queen Aya Megbele are looking very beautiful and adorable as the cover ladies of the latest edition of Genevieve Magazine. This month's edition is a Mother's Day special and in it Omawumi talks on motherhood and relationship status.

Is 2face Really A Changed Man?

The Afro Hip-Hop, RnB singer and father of six, Innocent Idibia who is popularly known as Tuface engaged his long time lover Annie Macaulay on the 14th of February 2012, He has since been faithful, We heard at a club recently Tuface surprised people by paying no attention to all the female passes that came his way, He just stuck to the crew he came with to the club and left with them.

This is definitely the other face of Idibia. Arrrhhh, finally Nigeria will enjoy an end to the exponential increment in fertility rate..

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Iceprince The Rap Artist Welcomes A Son With 20yr Old Undergraduate

On Thursday the 1st of March Ice prince, the popular Rap artist welcomed a son with 20yr old student Bimbo Babatunde. Iceprince is yet to say anything public about his love child, Toluwalase.

All the same congratulations to iceprince and Bimbo, for a child is the greatest gift ever.

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PICTURE: Flavour Kisses Tiwa Savage Romantically??

I really don't know how to poetically describe this mood between, Tiwa Savage and Flavour. Flavour recently did a Remix featuring Tiwa Savage of his song “Oyi Na Tum” which was originally on Flavour’s “Uplifted” album, and the video made the song go viral.

In this video Flavour a.k.a Nabania planted a beautiful kiss on Tiwa Savage's lips. Looking closely on the picture, how are you gonna describe this kiss? Or are you gonna say they are on the road to a romantic relationship??? Hmmm..... Below is video of the song.

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Ikechukwu's Fiancee, Sarah Ofili's Response Regarding Her Semi Nude Photos Released Online

We shared the just released photograph of rapper Ikechukwu's fiancee HERE. Guess the half Nigerian - Half Ghanaian model Sarah didn't see this coming, and on hearing and reading the negative comments that followed the photos, she tweeted;

"Morning Tweeps! What a morning already, my fones been bugging about some pic of me on blogs *rme* too early for dis yo! *yawn* BK to bed... Lol" 

"@pixelsandframes Oga u see wats u've caused? Sighhh..."

When the negative continued, she added;

"OH MY LORD!!!!! Its a fucking old pic of 07 stop with d fuckin headlines "sarah ofili goes topless in new photoshoot" Geeezzzzzzzz cc@pixelsandframes" 

"Okay seriously if my boobs faced upwards while I was leaning forward won't dat be worrying? Loool *rme*"

At least she never denied being the person in the photograph shot by Nigerian photographer Kelechi Amadi. Special effects by Pixels and frames.

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Ghanian Actress, Nadia Buari In A Secret Relationship With Chief Joseph Penawou?

Beautiful Ghanian actress, Nadia Buari is rumoured to be locked in secret romance with Nigeria's very wealthy Chief Joseph Penawou. And they've been spotted together.

Chief Joseph Penawou is a popular business man and politician and the husband of Delta Soap model, Nora Anusionwu Penawou. Report claims he's reportedly planning to make Nadia his third wife.

Is Nadia really willing to be the third in his list???

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Nollywood Actress, Mercy Aigbe Opens Up On Why She Married A Divorce Socialite

Below is a recent interview with Mercy Aigbe revealing much about her marrital life and why she married divorce socialite; she also spoke about her views on young men-

Super Father Of Many "2face" Expects 6th Child From Pero Adeniji



2face is expecting his sixth child from longtime girlfriend and mother of two of his five children, Pero Adeniyi.

His media manager informed the press, when he said-

Frank Edoho Plants Emotional Kisses On Girlfriend Lip in Public

The "Who wants to be a Millionaire" presenter, Frank Edoho was pictured kissing his new Girlfriend Sandra Onyenucheya in a friend's wedding somewhere in Lagos. Its been just a few months since he divorced his Ex-Wife Katherine Edoho, and the handsome young man is wasting no time in securing a new partner. 

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